The majority of people I meet, including myself, have a deeply ingrained habit of blaming everyone and everything else for the reality they experience mixed with a strong resistance toward taking responsibility for their own thoughts, feelings and reactions.
We have been brought up to believe that things happen TO US and that events MAKE US feel a certain way. Unfortunately, no one taught to us in school about the power that lies within our own mind and the choice and freedom that are available to us if we harness that power. Yet it is so important and so powerful to have this knowledge and understanding. It makes the difference between a life lived out of choice and living life as a victim, between a life lived with intention and purpose and a life moulded by outer circumstances, between living a happy, healthy life and living a life prone to mental, emotional and physical illness.It is the very reason why I set up Heart and Mind Education and developed a number of educational programmes, that all focus on discovering and using the power of the mind.
I use many different methods and approaches to achieve this but preferred methods of mine are mindfulness and meditation and I use them with all the age groups I work with from toddlers up to parents and fellow professionals. The reason for that is simple. Meditation and mindfulness short-track all the explanations and take us straight into experiencing what we are merely talking about here: our own mind.
Through practising meditation and mindfulness we come to get to know and befriend our own mind and what’s going on inside of it and we learn to patiently simply remain with what is, to not accept or reject anything and to just relax into whatever is arising. This requires us to develop acceptance, love and compassion toward ourselves.
After some time practising in this way, the mind and the thoughts will start to calm down and our focus and concentration improve, enabling us to direct the mind more towards the things we want it to focus on and meditation can become a very powerful tool that we can use to effect change in our thoughts, feelings and behaviour. We start to move from auto-mode and being ruled by our thoughts and emotions to becoming the ruler. We become able to simply watch and experience any habitual thoughts and emotions arising without having to react to them. Instead we can choose to reframe situations, retrain the way we think and feel and build new neuronal pathways and habitual patterns.
Once we have transformed our mind from an out-of-control monkey into our faithful servant, anything is possible!